Semi-Charmed Kind of Life

I just got a message from a guy I dated a while ago (before I went to Afghanistan) on MySpace. This guy did me wrong. We met on MySpace, but he was at the same base as I was, so we made arrangements to meet. The day we met we went to Savannah and we had a good time. We went out one other time after that and again, we had a good time. I thought I had finally met someone that I got along with, liked, and who liked me, too.

We made arrangements for another date. When it came time to go on it, though, I couldn’t get ahold of him. I called him a ton of times, I texted him, I even went by where he lived and knocked on his door. I felt like one of those crazy women that call you every minute and knock on your door every ten. I never thought I would be like that, like I would be all “whatever” if such a situation arose, but obviously not. (It lasted, like, a day, ok?)

I gave up and figured, if he really liked me, he wouldn’t have avoided me like that. I also tell myself that he’ll call me when he’s ready and when he wants to. …And I’ll tell him where to go, when to go, and how to get there.

Some time passes, I find out I’m going to Afghanistan, and all is well. Like most days I spent before I went to Afghanistan, I went online and I had gotten a message from him. He told me he was going through a divorce, that she was pregnant, and that he didn’t want to tell me because he thought I wouldn’t have anything to do with him if I knew the truth. He begged my forgiveness and for some reason (and somehow) I agreed to see him so he could explain himself to my face.

He comes and he talks to me about it. I mull it over a little and I see where he could be afraid to tell me the truth. I decide to believe him and give him another chance. He is genuinely happy about it. Of course, I tell him that I was going to Afghanistan in a month and he seems ok with it.

Then, he bails on me again. I call him and text him, again, no response. I forgave a person and he does me wrong again – this time, in a 24 hour time span!

So, what brings this up? You ask.

He tried to friend me on MySpace when I was in Afghanistan and I ignored him. But, he is proving to be persistant. He just messaged me explaining things. (This time, meeting is out of the question, at least right away, as he is in Iraq.) He said that he told his ex that he was with me that night and she told him that if he continued to see me, she would go to my command and tell them I was seeing a married man. So, he didn’t contact me anymore because he didn’t want me to get into trouble. That’s understandable, the fact that he didn’t tell me isn’t. He also told me that his marriage was void the whole time, as the idiot he was married to never divorced her first husband. So, he wasn’t even technically married.

He doesn’t seem to expect me to give him another chance. I might put him through the ringer, though, because he deserves it. And now I have to go pack and get ready to drive back down to Georgia.